“Yi-Yi, a One and a Two” Film Assignment

Yi Yi, A One and A Two is a ?lm that has been talking ab aside three families and their family members lives. Interestingly enough, it seems like that family members bewilder been focus on their own life most of the measure by dint of out the film. Instead of showing closely connected families, the characters in the flick are invigoration their own lives while living under the homogeneous roof. One of the examples is that when Min Min decided to move out, she didnt counterbalance talk to NJ about this, and when NJ saw her getting on the bus to the mountains, he didnt ache the attempt to stop her or expect her why.Which is quite unusual to closely connected families. Below are the characters relationship ?gure and theories applied to explain the events and the relationships I observed in the movie. 1. Bowens Family Systems a. Marital Con?ict Xiao-Yian and Adis marital con?ict was caused by the front end of Yun-Yun at Xiao-Yians party. Yun-Yuns Adis ex-girlfriend. But it s eemed like Xiao-Yian was not playing fair when the three of them were in a mania triplicity relationship, which worsened the relationship between the girls. Xiao-Yian got pregnant ?rst and kicked Yun-Yun out of the relationship.Since then, both of them had been opposing towards each separatewise. Thus, Yun-Yuns presence at XiaoYians party was de?nitely not something Xiao-Yian would want to see. Which caused Xiao-Yian and Adis marital con?ict. Min Min and NJs marital con?ict, on the other hand, was caused by grand nonpluss sudden illness. Min Min felt that all told the burdens were on her, and she could not ?nd a way out of the routine play, which do her felt lost and hopeless in her life, eventually she could not suck in it anyto a greater extent. But NJ was not doing anything before Min Min yelled all these out.However, it was all too late, Min Min decided to take into account sort of of staying and face all the complicated troubles. NTU B00610017 Joanne Lin-Jung Chiu b. Triangles / frantic Distance / Emotional Cut mangle There exists an emotional surmount between Lily and her mother. Lilys mother had been busy doing her job and pass offing flowerpots and lots of time with her immature boyfriend. And apparently, Lilys not happy with her mothers newfound boyfriend. Upon olfaction neglected and feeling like an outsider, Lily acted like an outsider. Thus caused an emotional distance between Lily and her mother.As the distance unbroken growing and growing, Lily started to form an emotional crosscut between she and her mother. Instead of repairing the relationship with her mother, she started to rely on her new-formed relationships with Fatty and the other new boyfriend. 2. Brofenbrenners Family in Human Development a. Mesosystem Models To both Yang Yang and sound Ting, they have their school and peer groups as the mesosystems. Take Yang Yang for example, his experience at school (bullied by the girls and humiliated by the teacher) did actually affect his conduct at fundament (i. . sad expression).However, Ting Tings mesosystem didnt seem as much affecting to her life and behavior as Yang Yangs in the movie. b. Exosystem Models Min Min and NJ both have their world of work and the neighbors as their exosystems. Min Mins retainers t venerable her to go to the mountains so that she nookie escape from the dull life she had. Her colleagues was some split of emotional avow at the time. Also, the neighbors discussed with Min Min about the new neighbors private life.The neighbors were another emotional support and virtual(a) support when grandma pelt ill. NJ met Ota at work, who led him to turn over deeply into life and humans business. This too gave him some support when NJ was facing his ex-lover and his current family. c. Chronosystem Models There are several transitions that can be found in the ?lm Normative Xiao-Yian and Adis espousal was obviously a normative transition. They got married, shared their lives toget her. Ting Tings got a new boyfriend (though it only last for a precise short time) indeed was a normative transition.But it seemed much like a normative transition to her own instead of to the whole family in the movie, the others werent aware of Ting Tings romantic relationship. NTU B00610017 Joanne Lin-Jung Chiu Non-normative Grandmas coma was a non-normative transition, which made Ting Ting felt upturned and guilty, made Min Min stressed and helpless and made the family fell out of balance and soon fell apart. Min Mins moving into the mountains was another non-normative transition. Min Min has always been the one whose been qualification a lot of effort to keep the family functioning.However, when grandma fell ill, the stress, fear and anxiety that fell upon her was far beyond the amount that she could handle. And thus she listened to her colleagues advice and moved into the mountains. After she moved into the mountains, the family looked unaffected because most of them were focusing on their own life. But, that was just how it seemed, the family was actually falling apart (not physically, emotionally instead). 3. Mating Preferences Women exhibit a heavyer preference to the men with more pipe dream, favorable status, ?nancial wealth and desire for children and a commitment to family.Thats why Adi kept boasting how much money he has or earned, broadcasting what his ambition in work was and saying what hes been doing at work made him a socially dominant man through out the entire ?lm, he wanted to be popular among women. On the other hand, men exhibit a stronger preference to the women with more features of youthfulness, health, physical draw and attributes that indicates reproductive potential. This explains why Lily and Ting Ting both wore shorter skirts and shorts when geological dating with a guy that showed more youthfulness and are probably physically more attractive to men.And this overly explains why Adi chose Xiao-Yian over Yun Yun, Xiao-Y ian was apparently more youthful and physically attractive than Yun Yun. 4. 9 Constraining Beliefs about compeer Selection (Larson, 1992) a. Try Harder Ting Ting fell into this constraining sentiment when she was trying to convince Fatty to have sex with her in lay out to show his love to her. distinguish isnt something that can be ameliorate only through hard work. b. FInding a New Love Should Be Easy Lily kept dating new boys and dumping the old ones.I think it could be that she did not think ?nding a love is something baffling or serious. However, love isnt something that can be turned on and off like a switch of the light bulb. NTU B00610017 Joanne Lin-Jung Chiu 5. Marital Processes in Context a. Microcontext Life stressors & Transitions Adi tried to commit a suicide at home but failed, this traumatic event strengthened marital ties for Xiao-Yian and him. Xiao-Yian and Adi were ?ghting all the time for many reasons such as Yun Yuns presence, Adis living habits and money. B ut after Adis attempt to suicide, Xiao-Yian tarted to realize how much she inevitable him, and thus strengthened their marital ties. Grandmas death also strengthened Min Min and NJs marital ties eventually. briefly after grandmas gone, Min Min went back home from the mountains and realized how much she needed her family and that life was not as troublesome as it seemed like. NJ went back from Japan and learned a lot from Ota. They started to face the events coming to them together. Their trades union ties strengthened, the family was united again emotionally. b. Microcontext Children Adi and NJs children both stabilized their marriage.NJ was struggling between Min Min and his ?rst love Sherry after he met her again at Adis wedding scatter after 30 years. Sherry was trying so hard to convince NJ to start a new life with her. But after a second thought, he decided to stay with his family instead of going off with Sherry. I think apart from what he say in the movie (I would make the same decision if I have the regain to live twice), Yang Yang and Ting Ting should be one of the briny reasons why NJ chose to stay. Adi was not over with Yun Yun like what he had said to NJ and Xiao-Yian at all.They still have sexual relationship and ?nancial confederacy after they broke up. The main reason why Adi married Xiao-Yian instead of Yun Yun should be XiaoYians pregnancy, which is quite obvious. And the newborn baby became a strong bond that ties Adi to Xiao-Yian somehow. Adi took video tapes for the baby and they took the baby with them when they visited NJ, all these showed that because of the baby, Adi began to make more effort in the family and the baby became something that Adi and Xiao-Yian shared. The baby surely stabilized their marriage in some ways. . Parenting Styles The parenting means in Lilys family could be isolated Style. Thus Lily showed moody, impulsive and alienated characteristics. In the movie, Lilys mother spend most of her time with her boyfr iend. Lilys mother chose to give Lily money and ask her to watch a movie with Ting Ting and spend time with her boyfriend at home instead of going to the movie with her daughter. The parenting style in Ting Tings family, however, is more like compulsive Style. We could see that Yang Yang is a friendly and explorative child, while TingNTU B00610017 Joanne Lin-Jung Chiu Ting is unaffiliated and optimistic. NJ always shows an positive attitude towards Yang Yangs questions and problems. For example, when Yang Yang was asking NJ questions like what people see and what people cannot see? , NJ didnt show any negative expressions, instead, he answered each questions Yang Yang asked patiently. NJ also taught Yang Yang rules. When Yang Yang was being impolite by staring at the neighbor in sunglasses, NJ told him not to do so and explained why its wrong(p) to do that after they got to the parking lot.